Medical Providers: It Only Takes One to Feel Better!

Have you ever had the experience with medical providers where you feel like saying “WoW, how refreshing to not have to battle with your providers?” I am currently in the hospital awaiting a lumbar puncture and am so excited to state that this is my experience right now! The hospitalist comes in and wants to have a conversation about what is going on with me. He listens and does not put up his “guard” when I suggest something or ask a question.

This is a treat of sorts. I am very aware that providers are unfortunately not like this as the norm. Too often, providers are either too busy/overwhelmed to take the necessary time with a patient. Or sometimes a provider simply doesn’t like the fact that a patient might actually know more about a specific condition than the actual provider.

Michael J. Fox speaks about this situation and essentially says the patient dealing with a specific illness is the expert on that illness. Of course we need medical providers that are experts as well, but please do not discount the experience of the patient.

This is super common with women being gaslighted to believe that their symptoms, including pain are not real. This can be too easily chalked up to anxiety, depression, or extra weight. It is so disturbing that even young, female providers do this often. I can totally appreciate the stress and enormous pressure of being a medical provider, but let’s meet in the middle and realize everyone is stressed out over a given situation.

Tomorrow, I am scheduled for a lumbar puncture (LP). I am hoping to find some answers as well as a successful procedure with wonderful providers. I usually have excellent care with the Interventional Radiology (IR) department. They seem to love their job, as they are the “Macgyvers” of the medical world. Tomorrow also is the last day that my wonderful hospitalist is on my case. Fingers crossed that I find a provider that believes me and wants to partner with me for my care.

So, I will wait and see. My prayers tonight are for a successful LP, that the LP provides information to direct care, and a quiet wish to be able to go home asap. What are your experiences with providers? How do you do to honor those that are excellent? What makes you draw the line and make a formal complaint? I’d love to hear from you!